This whole following your interests thing has almost become a buzz phrase.
“Homeschooling is so great because it’s all about following your interests!”
And it’s true, as homeschooling families, we have time to follow our interests. We have the ability to pour ourselves into the things we love in a way that others without the same amount of time just can’t.
So…it’s a good thing, right?
Yes. To a point.
Following Your Interests: It’s A Good Thing…Right?
I could literally spend all day writing, reading, taking pictures, or working in my barn. Those are my interests.
Should I spend all day exploring them?
Right now, my sons—who are huge fans of the following your interests thing—could spend all day on their computers. Computers and technology are where their interests lie. If there is a new game they are particularly interested in creating, or a tricky video they’re trying to edit, the sun could be blotted out by a ship full of alien pirates and my sons would never know until their fingers froze to their keyboard.
They’re in the zone, doing their thing. Following their interests. And that’s good, right? I mean, we’re always encouraged to let them follow their interests.
But is that what we should spend all day doing? Focus our entire life on? Following our interests?
Following Your Interests: Where Did Everyone Go?
Exploring what you are interested in, and spending the day doing what you love is happy and fulfilling and gorgeous. And yet, ironically so, it has the potential to turn us into isolated little beings that fail to see what else is out there.
Sometimes, that what else is out there is our family.
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You know what happens. The kids are deeply involved in Something Kids Love and so Mom or Dad get involved in Something Parents Love. The kids take a break from what kids love and see Mom and Dad are busy with what parents love so the kids move onto Something Else That Kids Love. Mom and Dad see the kids are still busy and continue on in their Something Parents Love…
Not a terrible thing on the surface. Not at all. And not a terrible thing short term. But long term? When the above becomes the everyday normal?
What happens when we end up as people in a family who share the same address but live such separate lives of what each person wants to do that we don’t look any different than the families we were trying to distinguish ourselves from?
If I’m honest with you, I will admit we’ve occasionally been there. Done that. It’s ugly.
Following Your Interests: Tunnel Vision
I think this is one of the dirty secrets of homeschooling: having the time to adopt a sort of hyperfocus for our own interests means we sometimes forget that the deeper we dive into what we ourselves are interested in, the more our lives can become about ME and less about US. The deeper we dive into what we are interested in, the harder it is for us to see what else is out there.
The hidden harm in following your interests is when it becomes something that ultimately removes you from other people. And I’m talking to both parents and kids here. The hidden harm in following your interests is when it gives you tunnel vision, blinding you from opportunities to discover other things that might become an interest. The hidden harm in following your interests is when a life you intended to bring your family closer together becomes a life where everyone is separate, all the time.
Follow your interests, for goodness sake. But remember to come up for air.