This is sorta weird, because I don’t know that we’ve ever actually talked about why I chose to homeschool you. You’ve always been homeschooled, so maybe it wasn’t something you ever thought to ask.
I did not choose to homeschool you because I thought the public school was evil. I did not choose to homeschool you because I was afraid of school shootings (shootings can happen anywhere), bullies (there are still bullies in homeschooling), or inappropriate language (you and I both know I was probably a sailor in a past life).
I did not choose to homeschool you because I thought the public school couldn’t teach you anything. Nor was it because of food allergies, an aversion to common core, or because I wanted to talk Matthew, Acts, or Proverbs whenever I felt like it. I mean, I do talk Matthew, Acts, or Proverbs whenever I feel like it, but it wasn’t a deciding factor in not sending you to public school.
I chose to homeschool you…just because.
You know, simply because we could.
It’s kind of like standing in the kitchen, wondering what to have for supper, and trying to decide between steak or pizza or boxed cereal. You choose something that sounds good and you go with it.
It’s that simple.
Okay, maybe I’m over-simplifying. The truth is that in the beginning, it might have had a bit to do with your dad’s crazy work schedule. And I won’t lie, the fact that we can work our life around his weird hours and sometimes unpredictable days on/days off has been amazing. Homeschooling really has made it so we can spend more time together as a family. And that’s cool, right?
Yeah, it is, because your Dad is pretty awesome. I kinda like him. It’s fun that we all get to hang out together as much as we do.
But other than that, homeschooling is just, well…life. It’s just what we do. Like breathing and bathing and brushing our teeth. It’s just part of our life.
But, dear sons, even though there weren’t a lot of specifics to why we chose to homeschool, there are a few things that I hope the experience will bring.
I hope you will explore.
I hope you will understand the massive amount of possibility this time in your life holds. We have the flexibility and you have the freedom to make so many things happen right now. Take advantage of it, if only for the simple reason that a gazillion people your age can’t.
I hope your world is big and gets bigger.
Homeschooling will not be about making your world smaller. Or sheltered. It will not be about pigeon-holing yourself or missing what’s around you because of tunnel vision. It was never intended to do that. Yes, focus on what you love. Yes, learn about what interests you. Yes, figure out why you believe what you believe. But keep both your eyes and your entire brain open, because the world is big.
See, the absolute last thing I want to do is to send you out into the world with an inability to deal with people who are different than you or who disagree with you. Because, darling sons, the world is full of them.
I hope you know that homeschooling is not an absolute.
Because it’s not. It is what works for us now. Might it work for us all the way through high school? Yep. It might. But if at some point it doesn’t, we’ll re-evaluate. So don’t feel bound by the property lines of “homeschooling”. If you’re ready to step on to something else, we’ll figure it out. We’ll tweak. We’ll change. And maybe, if it seems like it’s time, we’ll quit.
But for now, it works. For now, it’s wonderful—even on the days that seem long and I need to reach for the really good dark chocolate.
I think you’re awesome and it’s downright gorgeous that we get this life together.
Now, seriously. Please go do some math.